I had a strange experience last week. Well, to be honest, it was overwhelming and slightly mortifying when it was happening but now it just seems ridiculous that I allowed a negative situation to knock me down so hard.
What am I talking about? Last week, a host of a Facebook group, I’ll call her Jane, opened up a discussion on some of the events that are happening in America right now. Normally, I would ignore a post like this but I was so overcome by how negative everyone in the group was being, that I wanted to be positive (like cheerleader style, “We can hang in there and get through this, guys! All together now!”).
Jane, did not want that type of comment, and I was shut down—and not only shut down, I was humiliated. And I have to admit, I was angry. I was angry with myself for even trying. It’s Jane’s group, she has a right to go negative if she wants, and it’s not my place to rock the boat—and I take responsibility for that. Everyone was going one direction and I went the other, and the group didn’t want that.
But I was also angry—okay, pissed is more accurate—that I was treated that way for being positive. As someone who suffers from depression, this is a confusing message: usually, people are trying to get me to be more positive. And I’m embarrassed to admit that I didn’t write that morning. I didn’t get half the things I planned on doing that day done. Honestly, I crumbled. It took me hours to finally get back in front of the computer and work.
Quickly, I think I should add that I’m all for creating even when I feel like crap. If I stopped creating every time I was upset by something, I wouldn’t get much done. But you know? Negativity does affect me; however, I can control negative environments, elements, and people, so that there is less negativity in my life.
You only get so much energy each day. You can waste it on negativity, or you can spend it on creating. (<<< click to tweet!)
So before I started my work, I left Jane’s Facebook group. This wasn’t the first time I had been met with negativity in her group or even by her, and this incident finally convinced me I needed to leave. And you can think this next step is extreme, but I also stopped following Jane on all social media (since she was one of the first entrepreneurs I discovered when I started my business last year, I was following her on pretty much every social media site I use—not anymore).
Now, could I have just ignored Jane? I could, but removing negativity completely is better for productivity than just trying to ignore it.
And that’s my challenge for you today.
PRODUCTIVITY HACK: CUT THE NEGATIVITY
Where in your life can you eliminate (or at least cut down) negativity?
- Family for friends who criticize you for being a creative or running your own business. (I’d first try to explain to them why creating is so important to you, but if they make you feel like crap about yourself, chuck them. There are better friends out there waiting for you.)
- A job that makes you sick to your stomach to just think about. (There are a ton of jobs out there—you don’t have to work at one that makes you feel like this.)
- Bullies or “trolls” on social media and your site. (Delete them. Block them. Monitor your comments on your blog.)
- Social media. (If you’re a biz owner, you can’t ignore this completely, but you can choose to not go on social media until after you’ve completed your most important task(s) of the day.)
- Email. (Don’t check it first thing in the morning.)
- The news. (Yes, I think you should know what is happening in your community and your country, but you can wait until the workday is over to watch or read the news.)
- And any other person or environment that makes you want to pull your hair out.
Like it or not, you only get so much “energy” each day. You can waste it on negativity, or you can spend on creating badass content and pursuing your passions.
Are there any areas in your life you can cut the negative from so you can focus on what really matters?